Ego's perspective

  The why Simply put, forgiveness is choosing not to punish when we feel like we have a right to condemn. Forgiveness and punishment are attempts to gain back control. When one is feeling victimized, they may feel sorrow, resentment, vengeance, disappointment, etc. Either at their victimizer or themselves because sometimes WE are our victimizers. We perceive that we have lost control of our life. By being vengeful or forgiving, we are not punishing or forgiving the other person or thing but ourselves. It gives us a sort of closure to gain back control and move on. Let’s summarize all the reasons one must feel like punishing as: “Hurt” When one is Hurt, they can either take revenge or forgive, the former, an easy and empty meal. The latter, fulfilling but hard to make. The answer to this dilemma is imagination. Think of it this way. When a baby hurts us or throw its toy after we just fetched it back, do we snap and curse the baby. No, we find reasons like “the baby may be hungry...